Sorrow at others’ joy, celebration at their pain—are we truly human, or part of a society of “judges in human disguise”?
In Bangladesh, a strange form of national entertainment seems to have emerged—when someone faces hardship, people burst into laughter; but when someone shines, storm clouds gather on others' faces. It’s as if there’s a national sport called: “Jealousy XI vs. Empathy Zero.”
Let’s be honest—if someone is ever genuinely happy, they’re immediately labeled as “arrogant,” “attention-seeker,” or “showing off wealth.” But if they fail, the neighborhood begins sipping tea while gossiping in a high-voltage drama titled: “See? Told you they were full of themselves.”
Why are we like this?
Here are the rotten roots behind this mindset:
1. The Hidden Poison of Childhood Conditioning:
We grow up hearing things like—“Why did your friend score more than you?”
So when that same friend gets promoted, it stings.
Result? We become thorns in their joy and eat sweets over their failure.
2. Cultivation of Self-Doubt, Not Self-Worth:
When we lack our own success, others’ achievements feel threatening.
We develop a mental file called “Jealousy Mode,” where we downplay their success as: “just lucky,” “fake,” or “family money.”
3. Discounted Empathy in the Market of Success:
When someone rises, we assume they’ve stepped on our neck to get there.
We overlook their sacrifice and struggle—
because we’re too busy calculating “Why not me?”
4. Social Media: The Stage for Emotional Circus:
When someone posts a happy photo on Facebook,
someone else DMs with sarcasm: “Looks like you’re living it up!”
We forget—behind that smile might be mountains of hidden pain.
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So, what can we do?
1. Celebrate Others’ Wins Like a Festival:
Happiness hoarded becomes heaviness.
Shared joy becomes inspiration.
When someone does well, smile. Clap.
There’s no tax on encouragement.
2. Hang a Mirror in Your Mind:
Ask yourself—“Why does someone else’s pain bring me pleasure?
Am I just covering up my own failures?”
If the answer is yes—it’s time for a mental detox.
3. Wear Glasses of Inspiration, Not Comparison:
Someone else’s success isn’t your defeat.
It could be the roadmap to your next chapter.
4. Go to the Gym—of the Soul:
Self-respect, gratitude, and empathy—these are muscles of the mind.
You have to train them daily.
You don’t become human just by building biceps and triceps.
---
Final thought:
If we rejoice in others’ failures and suffer at their joy—
then which team are we really on?
The human team, or the vultures’?
The first step to building a better society
is becoming truly human ourselves.
Otherwise, our “social life” is just a mask—worn too well.
In Bangladesh, a strange form of national entertainment seems to have emerged—when someone faces hardship, people burst into laughter; but when someone shines, storm clouds gather on others' faces. It’s as if there’s a national sport called: “Jealousy XI vs. Empathy Zero.”
Let’s be honest—if someone is ever genuinely happy, they’re immediately labeled as “arrogant,” “attention-seeker,” or “showing off wealth.” But if they fail, the neighborhood begins sipping tea while gossiping in a high-voltage drama titled: “See? Told you they were full of themselves.”
Why are we like this?
Here are the rotten roots behind this mindset:
1. The Hidden Poison of Childhood Conditioning:
We grow up hearing things like—“Why did your friend score more than you?”
So when that same friend gets promoted, it stings.
Result? We become thorns in their joy and eat sweets over their failure.
2. Cultivation of Self-Doubt, Not Self-Worth:
When we lack our own success, others’ achievements feel threatening.
We develop a mental file called “Jealousy Mode,” where we downplay their success as: “just lucky,” “fake,” or “family money.”
3. Discounted Empathy in the Market of Success:
When someone rises, we assume they’ve stepped on our neck to get there.
We overlook their sacrifice and struggle—
because we’re too busy calculating “Why not me?”
4. Social Media: The Stage for Emotional Circus:
When someone posts a happy photo on Facebook,
someone else DMs with sarcasm: “Looks like you’re living it up!”
We forget—behind that smile might be mountains of hidden pain.
---
So, what can we do?
1. Celebrate Others’ Wins Like a Festival:
Happiness hoarded becomes heaviness.
Shared joy becomes inspiration.
When someone does well, smile. Clap.
There’s no tax on encouragement.
2. Hang a Mirror in Your Mind:
Ask yourself—“Why does someone else’s pain bring me pleasure?
Am I just covering up my own failures?”
If the answer is yes—it’s time for a mental detox.
3. Wear Glasses of Inspiration, Not Comparison:
Someone else’s success isn’t your defeat.
It could be the roadmap to your next chapter.
4. Go to the Gym—of the Soul:
Self-respect, gratitude, and empathy—these are muscles of the mind.
You have to train them daily.
You don’t become human just by building biceps and triceps.
---
Final thought:
If we rejoice in others’ failures and suffer at their joy—
then which team are we really on?
The human team, or the vultures’?
The first step to building a better society
is becoming truly human ourselves.
Otherwise, our “social life” is just a mask—worn too well.
Sorrow at others’ joy, celebration at their pain—are we truly human, or part of a society of “judges in human disguise”?
In Bangladesh, a strange form of national entertainment seems to have emerged—when someone faces hardship, people burst into laughter; but when someone shines, storm clouds gather on others' faces. It’s as if there’s a national sport called: “Jealousy XI vs. Empathy Zero.”
Let’s be honest—if someone is ever genuinely happy, they’re immediately labeled as “arrogant,” “attention-seeker,” or “showing off wealth.” But if they fail, the neighborhood begins sipping tea while gossiping in a high-voltage drama titled: “See? Told you they were full of themselves.”
Why are we like this?
Here are the rotten roots behind this mindset:
1. The Hidden Poison of Childhood Conditioning:
We grow up hearing things like—“Why did your friend score more than you?”
So when that same friend gets promoted, it stings.
Result? We become thorns in their joy and eat sweets over their failure.
2. Cultivation of Self-Doubt, Not Self-Worth:
When we lack our own success, others’ achievements feel threatening.
We develop a mental file called “Jealousy Mode,” where we downplay their success as: “just lucky,” “fake,” or “family money.”
3. Discounted Empathy in the Market of Success:
When someone rises, we assume they’ve stepped on our neck to get there.
We overlook their sacrifice and struggle—
because we’re too busy calculating “Why not me?”
4. Social Media: The Stage for Emotional Circus:
When someone posts a happy photo on Facebook,
someone else DMs with sarcasm: “Looks like you’re living it up!”
We forget—behind that smile might be mountains of hidden pain.
---
So, what can we do?
1. Celebrate Others’ Wins Like a Festival:
Happiness hoarded becomes heaviness.
Shared joy becomes inspiration.
When someone does well, smile. Clap.
There’s no tax on encouragement.
2. Hang a Mirror in Your Mind:
Ask yourself—“Why does someone else’s pain bring me pleasure?
Am I just covering up my own failures?”
If the answer is yes—it’s time for a mental detox.
3. Wear Glasses of Inspiration, Not Comparison:
Someone else’s success isn’t your defeat.
It could be the roadmap to your next chapter.
4. Go to the Gym—of the Soul:
Self-respect, gratitude, and empathy—these are muscles of the mind.
You have to train them daily.
You don’t become human just by building biceps and triceps.
---
Final thought:
If we rejoice in others’ failures and suffer at their joy—
then which team are we really on?
The human team, or the vultures’?
The first step to building a better society
is becoming truly human ourselves.
Otherwise, our “social life” is just a mask—worn too well.
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